“But the truth about asking for help is that no problem is too big or too small.
Asking for help many be scary, but it’s also one of the bravest things you can do.”

-Trevor Project

Getting Help for Yourself

Finding a good therapist or counselor can be difficult and you may not find the perfect one on the first try. You deserve a therapist that will work for you. 

Click here for some helpful tips and see local resources below.

Getting Help for Someone Else

Listen without judgement!

  • If you think someone may be suicidal, ask the person, “Are you having thoughts of suicide?”
    • This question DOES NOT suddenly put the idea of suicide in their head. If anything, this question helps to release stress and will help the person open up about their thoughts and feelings.
    • Ask if they have a plan.
    • Seek immediate and professional help.
  • Tell the person you are concerned and that you want to help.
  • Ask questions to show you genuinely care and want to understand.
  • Ask yourself about and look into potential risk factors:
    • Has this person been using alcohol and other drugs?
    • Has this person made a suicide attempt in the past?

You should NEVER agree to keep the risk of suicide a secret.

What to Say

  • I’m sorry you feel this way.
  • This must be very difficult for you, I can’t imagine how you’re feeling.
  • I’m here if you’d like to talk.
  • What can I do to help you?
  • I’m not sure what to say right now, I’m just so glad you told me.

What Not to Say

  • Chin up! You’ll be fine.
  • Everything happens for a reason.
  • I know exactly how you feel.
  • It’s really not that bad.
  • Stop stressing.

– Reminder! –

Keep in mind, you don’t need to know exactly what to say! Sometimes it is hard when people tell us deep feelings.
The best thing you can do is listen and take care of yourself/debrief afterwards.